Our Marriage Rules to Live By

The Checklist

  1. Don’t raise your voice
  2. Sit down
  3. Make eye contact
  4. Take a few breaths
  5. Start with “I”, not “YOU”
  6. Don’t attack, the person, attack the problem
  7. Have an “end” goal. 
  8. If not resolved, set a time, 5-10 mins later to reattack the problem.
  9. Rinse and repeat
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“Peace is the fruit of the right decision”

Remember, you are on the same team, and you love each other…. It is hard, but it’s worth it! What may seem like a huge deal today, is so insignificant in the grand scheme of things…. Chill

Percentage of Married People in 1930
Percentage of Married People in 2022

What men want:

Sex, food, respect, recognition

What women want:

Connection, security, time.

Top Marriage Issues

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Finances

Insecurity/Jealousy

Communication

Future

“I married the wrong woman”
(first 2 years of marriage- tell me I’m wrong).

Managing Expectations with a Plan (Just a Tip)

Make a game plan for the next day every night before bed! Who’s cooking, cleaning, picking up kids, work out, time up, etc. This is called expectation management! If you follow the plan, nobody is disappointed, expectations were set up front!

What Saved a Marriage

  1. The will to want to work on it (Both must want it to work).
  2. An outside voice (someone qualified-counselor) who is unbiased.
  3. Some apologies to help the hurt, and recognize a mistake was made.
  4. Both people need to take responsibilities (because there is two of you, and we’re not perfect).
  5. Real communication without the counselor/3rd party (Friends, family, Pastor).
  6. You need to be involved in the community and talk about things (proves you’re not alone).